Be the Badass You Deserve To Be
Updated: Nov 15, 2020
Being a badass is coming into this world fierce and unapologetic. The confidence you show is 100% real because you are 100% in love with everything about yourself. You are a grown-ass person who's faced triumphs and turmoils with a wink and smile. You don't pay attention to the chatter and gossip because you are too busy focusing on bettering yourself and your family and have no time for O.P.P. (other people's problems). You are a force to be reckoned with if anyone is in your way. You keep dancing to the beautiful music that is your life, the good stuff that you radiate only makes people want more of you.
Okay, with that said, what does it take to be a badass?
First, you need to understand this - You are enough. As I prefaced on my blog page, no matter what I say in any of my posts, you need to know that you do not have to live up to anyone's expectations but your own. We all grow at our own pace, have our standards we inspire ourselves to be, but ultimately know that in the end, what matters is your happiness, and even at this moment, you may not feel like it, but you are enough.
Taking Care of Business
When it comes to success, you have to take care of business and not let excuses get in the way of your progress. I've seen it my entire life, from family, friends, co-workers, and even strangers who, asking how things are going, will end up giving you the melodramatics highlights of their life story. They will tell you how they 'should of', 'could of', and 'only ifs' something would've happened that kept them from the things they ever wanted.
Let me tell you, the 'should of', 'could of, and 'only ifs' are an endangerment to progress and achieving your goals for everything you ever desired and wanted. Please cut these phrases out. They are passive and unreliable. Take care of business and start forming sentences with 'I am,' 'I will,' and 'I can' into your mindset. Research shows that people who achieve their goals are due to letting positive, aspirational thoughts allow them to frame their dreams into actionable, tangible items that help them get to where they want to be and cut out the excuses.
Don't Be the Victim & Stop the Excuses
Next, what I say will be harsh; please let's get over it quickly as I care about your well-being and want you to elevate and move on. The topics we discussed are so you can be a better person than you were yesterday.
Stop being the victim, stop making excuses, and start owning the shit and issues that are happening in your life. Of course, I am not going to downplay anything traumatic that happened in anyone's life. What I am asking of you is to rise above the bullshit and not let it beat you because you are above the circumstances, and they do not define you.
How do you do that? Let's break it down - control what you can control and stop making excuses. The outcome of an event can turn out to be good or bad is determined by how you think it will turn out to be. Take ownership of it. If it went well, say it went well. If it didn't go well, ask yourself what you can do next time for it to be better. You are in control of that. When you start to believe in the negative things, your mind begins to turn negative. It is that simple. Your mind's association with people, words, and actions are 100% done by what you believe it to be. So, stop being the victim of circumstances that you have no control over and fight back for your well being, and your mental state. This is why it is essential to fill your mind with positive, forward-thinking thoughts so that you may start healing and thriving in the life you deserve.
Building Your Vision
We all are dreamers. No matter who you are, everyone has aspirations to do, be, and or have something in this life. Remember, dreams are just dreams until you write it down, and then it becomes a goal. So, write them down! It does not matter how big or small you may think your dreams may be; if you are thinking about it constantly, it is your mind telling you it is important, so let's manifest it!
Once your dream is on paper, create your plan, and put a vision around it. Begin to work hard and start to visualize things that will help you reach your goal. I call these visual connections. An example I can share is growing up; I wanted to be first in my family to graduate from college. I began creating visual connections with things that were going to part of my journey. I saw myself going to the library, studying hard, working multiple jobs to save to college, and hold on to this strong vision of driving up Highway 101, leaving behind the poverty-stricken neighborhood and beginning a new chapter in my life. Then things started to manifest around me. I found driving up Highway 101, feelings goosebumps chills all over my body as I look to my left at the Pacific Ocean. My dream started fruition. I found this newfound energy fueling my passion for staying the course and putting in the work and ignoring the naysayers. I completed one step in my visual connections, and I was going to stop. Having these visual connections allowed me to see a path forward, build strength for my vision, and give me a pathway to achieve my goal and allowing me to believe dreams are possible, never don't your capabilities.
Having Compassion & Empowering Others
Having compassion is important, especially when we all are learners in this life and still ourselves every day. It is vital to have understanding, and empathy not only for others but also for yourself. Life can throw so much at you and begin to feel you can't catch a break. Please take a breath and realize it's all going to be okay. Life is not a recipe straight of a cookbook. Life feels like a scene of Straight Outta Compton. Life is about survival and having each other's back. There is no cookie-cutter way of doing things and perfect instructions for having the best life. We are all unique and different, and that only makes our journey to being a badass self unique and different. There are times you will fall, fall hard, but know you got this and will always get back up.
Don't forget to pay it forward. Help empower others to believe they also can work towards their dreams. You can do so by sharing best practices, volunteering at leadership events, and or even career day. The idea is to be there and to empower. You will feel good about it. Hey, I am doing it here. The only reason I am where I am today is that courage and compassionate people shared their struggles and their tale of their rags to riches. Their stories give me hope and still do. Just sharing your experiences will help others know they are not alone in their struggles and know they can succeed in this world.
I hope you enjoy the post and took in what worked for you. Being the best version of you takes work. Remember not to take shortcuts and take the time to figure out what being a badass look like for you. Understand, there are going to be naysayers and non-believers around you all the time, do not have to listen. Haters are going to hate. Talkers are going to talk. Whenever I cross paths with these kinds of people, I call them energy drainer, I say take note of their comment; however, you will rescind their message and send it back to them. Thank you, but no thank you, I love myself too much to allow your insecurity to break my efforts to better myself. Protect your spirit, cultivate your energy; no one can take that away from you. In the end, you are your own kind of badass, walk and talk like it, and know when you believe in it; things start to manifest, and the universe got your back.